Sunday, January 9, 2011

Hair Dilemma: Romantic Involvement With Your Stylist - A Hair Disaster,Solution,Tips And Hair Care

There are many things in life that I don't give the slightest thought to.  Whether someone should get  romantically involved with their hairdresser is one of those things that I just never really think about.
Until recently.  
I received an email from a very distraught young woman who titled her email "major hair emergency". 
Thinking that she had suffered through some horrendous home hair coloring event or been unhappily chemically altered by a perm or straightening treatment, I prepared to offer cuticle recovery assistance.
I was surprised when her hair emergency turned out to be a sticky situation involving a romantic relationship that she was having with her hairstylist of one year. 
It seems that the young lady was the last appointment of the day on a Saturday evening and somehow found herself having drinks and dinner with her personal hair guy.  One thing led to another, they fell in love and started living together.

The problem you ask?  Well for starters, there are all those other women that her guy hangs out with.  You know, the ones that her beau cuts, colors and styles for his livelihood.  All of those other ladies have made this young woman wildly jealous and progressively more miserable.  It doesn't help that her hairdresser love's last three serious relationships were all started with current hair clients.  Even worse is the fact that none of them lasted more than a few years. 
Although this situation may not seem like a serious problem, they are also fighting bitterly over her hair color, length and style.  When she was just his hair client, she could exert her personal desires over her hair. 
Now that she's living with him, her hairdresser will only create the color and styles that he thinks she should have.  Although she's miserable with her current hairstyle but he will not listen to her pleas to change it.
When he found out that she was considering going to a new hairstylist he accused her of cheating on his hairdressing activities with her.  Showing up with a new cut or color is something that she obviously can't hide.
She is also quite stressed by the fact that every time she visits her sweetie at his salon, he is surrounded by women that she is convinced are waiting in line for her ultimate relationship demise.  
Even worse, she fears that if she ends the relationship he will no longer do her hair, and before their romantic involvement, he was the best hairdresser she ever found in her life.

What's A Girl To Do?

Obviously I am not a couples counselor that can offer romantic advice.  I did volunteer to provide my own opinions but cautioned that all advice was based solely on my personal perspective.
I suggested that this troubled young woman immediately find a good counselor that she work with to try and resolve some of her conflicts about his work, his control of her hair and his female clientele. 
I pointed out that if she could work out her own issues regarding the relationship, everyone might just live happily ever after.  If things couldn't be resolved, I suggested that maybe she could convince him to go to a couples counselor to discuss their joint issues.


The ending was not a happy one.  Although the young lady did go to counseling, she was not able to resolve many of the problems.  Her guy refused to participate in joint counseling and they ultimately broke up.  She is currently searching for a new stylist but will only consider a female for her next hair care professional.
The morale to this story?  While there probably are many happy couples around the globe that started with as a hairdresser and their client, it may not always have a happy ending.  Just like getting romantically involved with someone at work or at your church, consider what the long term impact will be if you become intimate.  Think what will happed to your ability to continue to work with your valued hairstylist.  What happens if things don't work out?  Will you be able to still work together?
If you do take the plunge, consider immediately finding a different hairstylist in a new salon to work with your hair.  This action will prevent some of the problems that the young lady in question experienced with her hairdressing guy. 
Life can throw us into unexpected situations and getting involved with your hairdresser is one of them.

Hair Care Info


Shampoo Basics & Hair Tips
Shampoo formulas are composed of a series of large, specially treated molecules. Each molecule consists of both a head and a tail section designed to handle specific cleansing functions.  Read on for more details.

Dry Clean Your Hair: Instant Shampoo Formulas

Hair Takes A Powder - Bumble & Bumble - Read about the Bumble & Bumble dry shampoo hair powders.

Hair Tips: Wash Your Hair Without Water - Rene Furterer Naturia - This is a great dry shampoo product which comes in a spray that eliminates the messiness of powders.

One Bottle, Two Bottle, Three Bottle, Four
by Tamara of Calgary, Canada, Introduction by Karen M. Shelton

Pumping Up Men’s Hair - Tips & Secrets

Recycle Your Empty Shampoo Bottles
Jane Bullock provides lots of ideas for how to recycle your used shampoo bottles.

Wash Your Hair The Conditioner Way
A popular form of cleansing hair involves washing with conditioners instead of shampoo.  Read on for more details.

JF Lazartique Essential Orange Oil Shampoo Product Review

Hair Conditioning

How To Minimize Post-Shampoo Detangling Of Long Hair
by Dave Decker, Introduction by Karen Shelton

Repair Your Hair: Conditioners - Although some hair conditioners do not fit neatly into one of the clear cut categories, most hair conditioners are designed to fit in a category detailedin this article.

Watercress On Your Sandwich Or On Your Hair?
Karen Shelton tiptoes through the garden and tells you how to use watercress as a hair conditioner for oily hair.  This is the first in a series of do-it-yourself hair conditioner articles that Karen will be writing.

Types of Hair Conditioners

Although some hair conditioners do not fit neatly into one of the clear cut categories, most hair conditioners are designed to fit in one of the following:

1.  Pre-Treatment  such as various types of different hot oil treatments
2.  Rinse-out daily treatments
3.  Express deep conditioners
4.  Deep conditioners formulated according to hair type, texture or damage issues.
5.  Reconstructors deep and express treatments & environmental repair masks & special conditioners
6.  Detangling conditioners
7.  Leave-in conditioners
8.  Color enhancing
9.  Chemical free products
10. Combination conditioning products

Open Sesame To Phytosesame Express Hydrating Conditioning - One of PHYTO's tried and true magic potions, Phytos├ęsame is a fast-acting hydrating conditioner that provides dry, damaged hair with all the essential elements it needs.

PhytoSpecific Intense Nutrition Hair Care Trio - A Review

Rene Furterer's Carthame Oil - Recently when I interviewed celebrity stylist Ken Paves I learned that some of my favorite Phyto and Rene Furterer, products are the very ones that he uses constantly on his celebrity clients.

Hair Dos & Don'ts - Hair Care Tips

Does hair play a major role in how people perceive us?
Jay House shares what happened when she went from no hair to longer hair. Great article with interesting insights.

Hair Manners  Hair Boutique's Jane Bullock whips out her wit and explains how NOT to offend people with bad hair manners.  This article combines humor with practical advice.   And yes, please don't try the underwear on your head trick.  Move over Miss Manners.

Love The Hair You Were Born With - Learn to love your tresses. It’s human nature to want what we don’t have.  The results of not getting what we want from our hair may result in a blow to our self esteem.  It certainly doesn’t help that most celebrities seem to always look like they’re having a great hair day.  Read this article for a hair love adjustment.

Scalp Care & Tips

Dandruff Faqs
"Karen Shelton provides lots of facts on this condition that affects millions of people.  She offers into on both traditional and non-traditional methods for dandruff management." More...

Karen's Home Scalp Remedies - Scalp Home Remedies - Try At Your Own Risk

Hair & Care Diagnostics

How To -  Care For Hair & Scalp

Special Tips For Long Hair Care At The Gym - A regular work out schedule can bring a new set of challenges for hair care.

Hair Care Products

What Are "Natural" Hair Care Products? by Karen Shelton
Karen defines "Natural Hair Care" and dispels some myths about hair care products.

Top Hair Care Tips

Hair Brushing 101  by Tamara of Calgary, Canada, Introduction by Karen M. Shelton
"I'm a bad girl when it comes to brushing. I brush top down. I know, I know, it's a sin. But hey, I gotta have some sins since I don't drink coffee. What I really like to do is bend over and start brushing at the nape of my neck. My brush usually will go for about five inches before there is some resistance. I take the brush out and start again at the nape at a slightly different spot and do another stroke until I feel resistance." More...

Karen's Personal Top Ten Hair Care Tips For 1999 By Karen Shelton
"Over the past year I have researched and written hundreds of daily hair tips for the front page of Hair Boutique. Yes, there are lots of hair care secrets that people want to know. Some of these secrets include using ketchup to remove a green tint, applying Vaseline around the face to prevent hair dye from staining the skin and using ice cubes to remove gum from the hair.

While my head is literally crammed full of hundreds of similar hair care tips, these are not the tips that I live by on a daily basis. My personal hair care tips may surprise you. They are definitely a little different than you might expect." More...

Hair Care Links

Short Hair:  Fine Hair - Styling Secrets For Volume

Celebrity Hairdresser's Tips: Blow Drying Your Hair!

Celebrity hairdressers Ken Paves (Jessica Simpson), Robert Hallowell (Geena Davis, Mary Louise Parker) and Barbara Lhotan share the secrets to perfect blow drying.

Hair:  Air Dry Your Tresses Although it is infinitely much better for you to dry your hair without the blast of a hot blow dryer, in reality, it can be a lot more challenging to get the style you want without resorting to your tried and true method.  Try these tips for successful air drying.

Thermal Reconditioning? Have You Heard Of This Hot New Treatment? This sizzling hot treatment offers an end to curly & frizzy hair from hell.   Karen spent several hours talking to St. Louis thermal reconditioning expert Amy Reed.  Check out Karen's interview with Amy and get the inside scoop to this hot new hair straightening technique.